Winning the Inner Battle

add affirmations mental health morning ritual personal development routine Jan 18, 2021
Mary Massey

How’s the inner battle going?

Mine is constant.  It’s always hard for me to focus and when I get to the point when I’m actually productive and get interrupted, I get frustrated.  This is something that I have come to learn about myself recently and being able to find the right coping methods has been very helpful.  Even now as I had sat down to type this email I was interrupted because the dog came in with dirty paws after digging in the backyard and went straight onto the nice sofa and my husband was asking me how to clean it.  So I got up and closed the laptop and had to get away to take some deep breaths.  I was interrupted and it felt like someone pulled a bandaid off with the scab.  It’s a feeling that only certain people can understand.  I sat in my bedroom and looked out the window for a while and reminded myself that it was OK and that I was overreacting.  But I know why I feel this way.

Why am I telling you this?  Because I really believe I have some form of ADD.  There are people who have that physical sign of ADD and you might see them constantly shifting or always working out.  If you’re a LT member, you know what I mean.  But there are others who have a hard time quieting the mind and have difficulty in other areas.  The type of ADD that I believe I have is called Inattentive ADD.  The good news is that there are things that I can do in order to feel and perform my best.  One of the reasons I became a Life Coach was because I was able to train myself to think differently and to form better habits.  Aside from all the trauma that we often experience in life, adding something like ADD to the mix can be incredibly hurtful and frustrating.

For example, I would always find myself asking “what the hell is wrong with me?” Or “why can’t I just finish what I started?” Or “here I go again investing money on something I won’t finish!”  I have many eggs in my bask as well.  But through it all you would never guess what I go through because I seem to perform well in front of others, and for the most part, I do.

I’m telling you this because the more I learn and explore, the more common these conditions seem to be.  As women, we are so used to performing and battling through our day because that’s what’s expected of us from society but also from ourselves.  Everyone needs us even when we are not emotionally available.  Taking a moment to sit and analyze our individual situation can save us from frustration, anxiety and even depression, lack of self love and unworthiness.  Trust me, I’ve gone through it all and I’ve done it mostly silently because that’s how I’ve done things my entire life.  But there comes a time when sharing can not only be vital for personal growth but also for helping others.

Do you know someone who might be struggling silently?  Or maybe it’s you.  Perhaps you don’t know how to put into words what you’re feeling or you brush those feelings under the rug because you have to keep going and there’s no time for this.  I’m here to tell you that you’re not alone.  There are many things that we can do to get ourselves to a better state of mind and there are things we do on a daily basis to help us get through our day without feeling inadequate.  Here are some of the things I do and when I do them consistently I know that I can stick to my goals and feel great:

  1. Routine:  How you start your morning can have a massively positive impact on your day.  Pick a habit that you can incorporate as soon as you wake up.  For me it’s “priming”, prayer and gentle stretching.
  2. Affirmations: Whether you believe you can do something or not, you’re correct!  So believe you are focused.  Believe you have abundance.  Believe you are strong.  Believe you are patient, etc.  I listen to morning affirmations while I brush my teeth and also have a waterproof bluetooth speaker in my shower.
  3. Exercise: from yoga to Zumba and strength training… do what feels right for you to get your endorphins going, raise dopamine and lower stress hormones.
  4. Nutrition: Eat your colors!  Lower excess sugar and processed foods and supplement accordingly.  Even nature needs a little help.
  5. Hydrate: Brain fog can be caused by dehydration.  I always make sure I have water even when I drive.
  6. Journal: Write down your thoughts, your goals, your prayers.  Write letters to those who aren’t with you or write a letter to someone you need to forgive.
  7. Feed your mind: Personal development is necessary for anyone who wishes to not stay stuck. Follow inspiring people on social media.  Hire a coach like me or read books that will help you become the best version of yourself.

I hope this helps you or someone you know.   Does it resonate?  Please let me know.  As I continue to grow and help myself I really want to take you along with me.  I love to learn and share in your experiences as well.


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